Guard the Sacredness of One Another, Part 2
Series: Under Grace
Adultery 2: Guard the Sacredness of One Another (6.25.17)
You shall not commit adultery. Exodus 20:14
Why adultery is listed as one of them; why does it rob life?
It goes back to God’s intention of creating
The passion of
And in order to do that -- God made mankind- Male and female, different but perfectly complementary to each other.
Harmony achieved in the initiation and offer of love through the male...and the receiving and nurture of love through the female. Our bodies are made to experience love by the gift of ourselves to each other.The first man and woman were created to communicate God’s love and
Together Man and woman are a visible expression of what is invisibly present in the relationship of the
Marriage is designed to be a powerful, vivid, visible, revelation of God's relentless, intoxicating love for us.
Sign and wonder and Foretaste of what's to come
No wonder this powerful revelation is under attack by evil forces to erode and destroy it
At the earliest age possible
Pray for revelation from head to hearts to bodies
Humility and desperate dependence / Courage
Miracle of restoration but it starts in each of our hearts
Meaning of Adultery
- Adult”- falsify, corrupt from the Latin “ad”- (towards) and “alter” (other)
- Suffix “
ery”- to be in the business or condition of…
Adultery means that you are in the business of falsifying or altering the purpose of your sexuality toward what it was never meant for.
We have to recapture the picture and guard it together as a family.
Celibacy and Singleness (Desire vs. Contentment)
So thankful for the single people in our church,
It’s good to have a desire to be married
1 Cor 7 single want to be married, and the married want to be single
I understand this common feeling and common sentiment, but let me gently share with you a truth which may be hard to hear but which comes out of 25 years of marriage and of pastoral ministry where I have married scores of couples and engaged in both premarital and marriage counseling:
Marriage in itself does not resolve all of your issues, and life will not necessarily be better once you are married. In fact
Marriage is not the end goal, the answer to all your problems.
Discontented single people are
We need to recapture this truth:
Marriage is not the ultimate, God is the ultimate, marriage is a foretaste and helps us anticipate the complete fulfillment of our desires
Marriage is theme pointing to the ultimate which is walking with him which you can and should live that now
Theme threaded through scripture
Gen marriage..... ends with our marriage to him....Paul sign of
Genesis 2:18-25 (One flesh, Naked and felt no shame)
Ephesians 5:32 ( Christ's love for the church)
Revelation 19:6-9 (Marriage feast of the
Celibacy or singleness looks ahead at the finality of His love, filled with him and satisfied with him
kNow the ultimate is satisfied with him. In the
Intimacy is an opportunity but not a solution
Both married and single people need to grow in allowing the
For all of
We have seen this illustration and
Tape loses its stickiness - Designed for one not many
Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.
How do we guard our
Jill- Temptation is a human experience.
A lustful look is the moment of choice...an opportunity to yield to the purpose of our lives/bodies as a gift to be given NOT a force to
It's drilled into me as a young man to look at a woman as an object for ME to have to consume
Reshape how we “LOOK” at each other-
What is divinely beautiful
Woman caught in adultery. Dragged through the streets and thrown in front of Jesus and a crowd
Jesus straightened up and asked her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?”
“No one, sir,” she said. “Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.”
I think the way he treated her was with forgiveness and dignity
His eyes, you are a reflection of me,
Do not sin, you are worth far more than how you are treating yourself
“Look” = as a reflection of what is divinely beautiful [See each other as image bearers]
If what we see in each other is viewed as a reflection of what is divinely beautiful, if it ultimately directs our eyes to
Submitting our driving passions to God's powerful and transformative love can redirect our “look”.
“New look” = what we begin to see and be attracted to in each other is the “other” as a whole and a revelation of mysterious truths about God.
Jesus declared, “Go now and leave your life of sin.”
Reforming takes time and intentional practice
Breaking the negative pattern in your marriage of rejection, insecurity, guilt, hurt and distance.
Remember what sin did to Adam and Eves innocence, wonder and vulnerability and nakedness
Hiding, guilt, rejection, shame, insecurity, distance
So easy through the years to allow it to seep in
Such a negative pattern of not affirming, of not growing close, of not fighting to guard the sacredness of this bond
There is always
instead of affirmation and security Built into our pattern
Initiate, rejection, hurt, insecurity and distance
Attracted or felt drawn to someone else
Misinterpreting one another
Sometimes you need a little structure help restart and reshape
We have a picture of what we think romance is...that we will just naturally vibe together and understand each other in such a way that specific communication should be almost easy, even unnecessary. And if any measure of what feels like work and patience
“We love and so choose each other because we ARE soul mates OR we love and so choose to BECOME each other’s soul mate?”
- Check your attitude-1 Cor. 7:9- Marriage was meant NOT as a licensed outlet for lust within “the law”, but an actual remedy…The covenant of marriage IS the promise to GIVE oneself, and to honor the other in receiving and affirming them...therefore the sexual union becomes an expression of what is taking place in the heart.
- Affirm one another
everydayto create a safe place for vulnerability
- Naked and felt no shame
- Hitting at the heart of intimacy when you break trust
- Marriage is meant to become a place of acceptance and security in sexual expression, A gift itself on our journey of redemption.
- NEVER a biblical excuse to funnel our lust simply toward one person.
- Draw close to each other thru prayer
- Protect your emotional closeness by saving your deepest thoughts and feelings for each other
In Dating we flirt with multiple people, looking out for “who’s it going to be?”...it often begins at a very young age and can become a relational habit that is very
Parents, help your children guard their sacredness
- Don’t give up: pursue vulnerable, open communication
- Just because you struggled does not mean they will inevitably will
- Proactively guard them
- Don't give them fill accessibility to media through phones and computers, and bond together as parents to support each other’s values
When we guard the sacredness of the body, we honor the very essence of being human: That we were made with personal dignity to give and receive love (self-gifting) as a reflection and incorporation of Divine love.
1 Corinthians 6:16-20 (MSG)
There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is
PRAYER OF CONSECRATION:
“Lord Jesus, I confess here and now that you are my Creator and therefore the creator of my sexuality.
You are my Savior. I have been purchased with your blood and my life and body belong to you.
I present myself to you now to be made whole and holy. You ask us to present our bodies as living sacrifices, as instruments of righteousness; and I present myself to you now.
I confess and renounce the ways I have misused my body and the gift of my sexuality, Ways I do not even fully understand. I ask that your Spirit
Please, take back the ground the enemy has stolen from me. Thank you for the complete forgiveness You offer me in Jesus. I want to forgive myself. I want to forgive those who have taken from me, used me, and distorted Your image in my sexuality.
I ask you to fill my sexuality with your healing love and goodness and all that you’ve made it
I pray this in the ALL powerful name of Jesus Christ my Lord, the restorer of all things. (Adaptation of prayer in John Eldredge’s: Moving Mountains)
Helpful resources for marriage:
Helpful resources for reshaping your minds (with addictions)
Speaker: Phil & Jill Carnuccio
June 25, 2017
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